Self-Defense in Domestic Violence Cases: Understanding Reasonable Force Under California Law

Self-defense can be a tricky thing. On one hand are those instances where an attempted burglary or assault – or sometimes even an attempted murder – is defeated by successful self-defense efforts. On the other hand are cases in which a burglar or other criminal wins a personal injury action for injuries and damages suffered when the self-defense force has been excessive. Domestic violence situations are governed by similar principles, in the sense that:

• It matters who the aggressor is.
• It matters whether the self-defense force used was reasonable under the circumstances.

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Understanding Self-Defense in Domestic Violence Law

What is Self-Defense in Legal Terms?

Self-defense is the use of reasonable force to protect oneself or others from imminent harm. In California Family Law, self-defense can be a valid defense in Domestic Violence Restraining Order (DVRO) cases, provided the force used was:

• Proportional to the threat.
• Necessary to prevent harm.
• Not excessive under the circumstances.

Key Legal Definitions (Glossary):

• DVRO (Domestic Violence Restraining Order): A court order that protects a person from abuse or threats.
• Reasonable Force: The minimum force necessary to protect against harm.
• Primary Aggressor: The individual who initiated the violence.
• Mutual Combat: A situation where both parties engage in a fight willingly.
• Preponderance of Evidence: The legal standard in family law; more likely than not.
• Imminent Threat: A danger that is immediate and requires urgent action.

Case Study: The Marriage of Valerie and Louis G.

This was demonstrated in a published decision of the Fourth District Court of Appeal (In re the Marriage of Valerie and Louis G., Cal.App., May 16, 2017, Superior Court No. D558422, Appellate Court No. D070495).

In this case:

• Wife filed for dissolution of marriage, seeking child support, custody, and a DVRO against Husband.
• The court found that the Husband did not initiate physical confrontations and used reasonable force to defend himself.
• The Court of Appeal upheld that self-defense principles apply under the Domestic Violence Prevention Act (Family Code §6200 et seq.).

The Legal Framework Behind Self-Defense in DVRO Cases

Key California Codes & Cases:

• Civil Code S50: Permits reasonable force to protect oneself, family, or property.
• Family Code S6305: Addresses mutual restraining orders and primary aggressor analysis.
• Family Code S6200 et seq.: Governs DVROs under the Domestic Violence Prevention Act.
• Penal Code S137.6: Addresses false reporting of abuse (a critical remedy in false allegations cases).

Notable Cases:

• Calvillo-Silva v. Home Grocery (1998) 19 Cal.4th 714: Self-defense in civil cases.
• People v. Myers (1998) 61 Cal.App.4th 328: Reasonable force against battery.
• Frickstad v. Medcraft (1929) 100 Cal.App.188: Property protection and reasonable force.
• Riffel v. Letts (1916) 31 Cal.App. 426: Retaking property with reasonable force.
• J.J. v. M.F. (2014) 223 Cal.App.4th 968: DVRO mutual restraining orders and aggressor analysis.

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Self-Defense Laws Across the U.S.: A Comparative View

While California emphasizes reasonable force and primary aggressor analysis, laws vary:

• Stand Your Ground States (e.g., Florida, Texas): No duty to retreat, broader self-defense rights.
• Duty to Retreat States: Must attempt to escape safely before using force.
• Mutual Combat Rules: In some jurisdictions, courts assume shared fault unless disproved.

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The Role of Credibility and Context in DVRO Cases

Why Credibility Matters:

Family courts are courts of equity, judges assess the fairness of each party’s actions. If a party has a pattern of violence or aggression, its self-defense claim may fail.

The Clean Hands Doctrine:

If you’ve initiated violence in the past, even unrelated to the current DVRO case, the court may view your hands as “unclean,” weakening your defense.

Practical Guide: Defending Yourself in a DVRO Case

What to Do If You’re Accused but Acted in Self-Defense:

Gather Evidence:

• Photos of injuries (yours and theirs).
• Police reports, medical records, texts, emails.
• Witness statements.

Prepare for Court:

• Organize your evidence chronologically.
• Rehearse your testimony with your attorney.
• Be clear, calm, and factual.

Understand the Impact:

• A DVRO affects child custody, support, firearm rights, and even employment background checks.

Know Your Rights:

• You can file for a Civil Harassment Restraining Order if you’re the true victim.
• Penal Code §137.6 allows legal remedies if you’re falsely accused.

Seek Support:

• Counseling, legal aid, and family law specialists can guide you through this challenging process.

False Allegations: Defending Your Reputation

False claims of domestic violence can:

• Lead to wrongful DVROs.
• Affect custody and visitation.
• Impact professional licenses and background checks.

If falsely accused:

• File a motion to dismiss or modify the DVRO.
• Consider legal action for defamation or false reporting.

Preparing for a DVRO Hearing: Step-by-Step

Understand the Process:

• Filing ➔ Temporary Order ➔ Hearing ➔ Final Order Decision.

Know What to Bring:

• Evidence, witnesses, and legal representation.

Understand Potential Outcomes:

• DVRO granted/denied.
• Custody, support, and visitation adjustments.
• Firearm surrender.

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Frequently Asked Questions (FAQs)

Can a DVRO be reversed or dismissed?

Yes, if you prove false allegations, lack of evidence, or a change in circumstances.

What happens if I violate a DVRO in California?

You may face fines, jail time, or further legal restrictions.

How do courts decide between mutual combat and self-defense?

By reviewing evidence, history of aggression, and credibility of witnesses.

Can self-defense be used against emotional abuse claims?

Physical self-defense must still be reasonable and proportionate. Emotional abuse defense may rely on other legal standards.

What evidence strengthens a self-defense claim in family law?

Photos, medical reports, witness testimony, text messages, police records.

Can self-defense impact custody decisions?

Yes, courts consider the best interests of the child, so a successful self-defense claim may help retain custody.

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